Archive for July 2013

MySurreaLife at the MDA telethon taping

Albeit a little earlier than usual, today started like any other day.  Woke up sad that my alarm was going off and that sleep was over but happy for the day ahead. Got dressed in all black, put away clean dishes from the dishwasher that had been cleaned while we slept last night. I fixed breakfast for our little lady, and coffee and maybe also a gluten & dairy free piece of pumpkin pie for me.

Then my day became different than most every other day. I remembered to grab my “secret service” walkie talkie headset that my ever so kind, former roomie, Big Rob had given me. I shoved it in my smaller than usual bag I would be using for the day; the black, messenger style bag I use on show days. It’s a bag I love (& borrowed / stole from my little sis) because it fits (most of) what I need and also holds the heavy walkie talkie we carry around on show days.

I woke the little lady, got her dressed in record time, woke up my girlfriend who spent the night to avoid the crazy long drive she would have had from her home in Huntington Beach, sat little lady and I down to eat & enjoyed the few moments of downtime I knew I’d get today. We drove her to school, I gave little lady a big hug & kiss and told her I wouldn’t see her until later tonight since I had to work at a show.


We got back in the car, drove up and over Laurel Canyon and pulled onto the CBS Beverly lot. We checked in, got our walkies and waited for talent to arrive.


I have been at work for 4 hours now and have been 2 feet from each of the 5 Backstreet Boys. That’s a lot of numbers for one sentence! Haha. I am always surprised to realize how much more tiny “celebrities” are in person. 4 of the BSBs are not only relatively short, 5′ 6″ at the tallest & Kevin, the one who has some height is super thin as well! I just carried his suit jacket from being pressed in the wardrobe department & was really perplexed at how little it was.  I am also very impressed at how nice they all are. Having been in show business for so long can really wear on people. It’s nice to see these guys are cool after all these years.


They performed their new single and also, “I want it that way.” The girls, although an entirely new age & generation from when BSB first came on the scene, still went wild when the BSB started singing that song.


After the BSB left, i went outside to sit with my wonderdul friends who mann the talent check in table outside near the reserved parking spaces.   Having just heard the BSB performance, I had, “I Want It That Way” stuck in my head & starter singing it to my friends, so they could have it stuck in their heads also. I know, I’m a great friend.

Not 5 minutes later, the awesome guy that announcer Shawn Parr is walked by where we were sitting and also started singing, “I Want It That Way,” and also added some NSYNC looking dance moves. He reminded me of the Seinfeld episode we had just seen the night before where Kramer wins free coffee in a law suit. Shawn was moving fast like Kramer & when I told Shawn so, he reenacted the scene when Kramer is over caffeinated. It was awesome.

I’ve learned today who Austin Mahone is and also Chris Mann.  I don’t watch reality tv so I’m kind of out of the loop when it comes to recognizing reality show people.

So thankful for the randomness that is MySurreaLife.

Absolutely Loved Seeing This at Outback

My significant other, my soon to be mother in law and I all went out to eat at Outback awhile back.

Halfway through dinner, a table in front of us was seated.  In the party of 7 was a younger boy in the most shiny Liza Minelli shawl of a jacket I had ever seen.  I stared at the boy, and at the people eating with them, in awe of their love and support for all things “him.”  This boy, at such a young age, was being taught that, regardless of what he loved or what he wanted to wear, the people around him supported him.  He is going to grow to be so successful. He already thinks, “hey, I can do that and won’t be scrutinized for it.”

MySurreaLife at Outback and a Liza Minelli shawl jacket

This Creeped Me Out A Bit

It’s creepy, right?

When I saw this I felt like I was Alice in Wonderland or in some other cartoonish dream.

MySurreaLife and a creepy looking electrical post

We Bought A Stroller

I hope she gets used to it soon. ha

MySurreaLife and a Chicco stroller


It Takes Courage to Make Peace

I saw this sign awhile ago at a health foods store and just recently came across this photo I took of the sign with such incredible insights.

In my quest to be a promoter of all things peaceful and happy, I realize how much more difficult it is to be peaceful when trying to resolve conflict.  It’s so much easier to fly off the handle and let emotions overrule sensibility and logic.

MySurreaLife LOVE these phrases

Parenting this person I’ve only known a few months, I’ve seen first hand how beneficial it is to remain calm at all times, and try like crazy not to let circumstances turn me into something resembling Godzilla.  Over time, I’ve seen how the little one reacts to my freaking out vs my staying calm.  I can tell she thinks more when I am calm.  She, in turn, is also less emotional.  Working to understand one another is a win win WIN.

The Day I Learned Naps Are Essential. Essential.

Yesterday started gloriously.  Little lady let me sleep until 10am.  She then proceeded to be as sweet and good listening as a gal can get.  We ran an errand then went to eat at a favorite (albeit expensive) hot dog place I like.  I didn’t realize it was so expensive until I was paying for the relatively small amount of food I ordered for the two of us.  $21 for 3 hot dogs, a kids burger and a drink! Yikes.  Lesson learned.  Not going there again until (or this site) is bringing in at least six figures.

Anywho, Dave Grohl happened to be eating there as well.  He sat in the corner table outside, near the outdoor table little lady chose for us.  I looked around and though, “what a perfect Southern California summer day.”  Hot dogs and hamburgers outside, with a rockstar nearby and little lady was being a little angel.  Eating her burger quietly, looking around at everyone, chatting with me.  She was the perfect lunch date.

After lunch she and I ran another errand (shopping) and again, she was dreamy.  On the drive home, I thought how great it was that she was being such a champ.  She usually is, but I was particularly appreciative as I had been able to get so much done with her that I wanted to do that day.  I usually reserve such activities for when she’s in school, just so I can be productive and actually get done what needs to get done without totally exhausting myself in the process.

We got home, and again, I thought, “my she’s doing well for not having had a nap today!”  I figured if she was doing as well as she was, I could just get her to bed earlier and we could go about our day without her taking a nap.  We each did our own things for awhile and until realized she was doing something I had asked her not to do before.  When I asked her to stop and correct her behavior, she looked at me like I was an idiot.  I asked her if she heard what I asked her to do.  She simply kept the look up. I took my cue and turned off the movie she was watching.  It was like the quiet before the storm.  I heard her shuffling (perhaps throwing?) things as I left the room calmly.  About twenty minutes later she came into the room I was in and asked to watch her movie.  I told her, “only children who listen to their parents and respond when spoken to get to do fun things like watch movies.”

Cue the thunderstorm…and the stink eye. This tot certainly let me know she was not happy about her predicament.  This crap attitude of hers continued for the rest of the evening. Battle after battle, being combated by my ever weary patience and deep breaths.  My nerves were frazzled and nearly shot by the time my head hit the wonderful pillow that night.

At present she is taking her nap in her bedroom, on schedule.  My nerves, and hers, will be much better off for it.  Lesson learned. Never again.

Heels & Happiness

I’ve always enjoyed seeing my friends’ children putting on their mother’s high heels.  It wasn’t until tonight that I saw first hand how wonderful it is to get ready to go out for a night on the town with a toddler in tow, trying on your high heels and telling you how beautiful you look.

It was a wonderful feeling, seeing her wearing and walking surprisingly well in my heels, telling me, “you look great sister!” and also letting me know that a couple pairs of my shoes she tried on were hers.  When I asked in shock, “those shoes are yours?” she replied, “yeahhh. Duh” with the cutest smirky smile ever.

What a wonderful memory 30 minutes can be.

MySurreaLife Dressing up with little lady

Family, the Beach, Josh Groban Live & the Hollywood Bowl. These are a few of my favorite things

The past few weeks have been so incredible and have taught me so much.  My significant other and I have been inundated with toys, books and clothes for our new addition who has grown into such a smart, happy, outgoing, secure little lady in the short time we’ve known her.

MySurreaLife and this incredible little lady

This past week specifically, we were fortunate enough to have had my aunt and her two, nearly-adult children come stay with us for the week.  When my aunt arrived, I was talking to her about interviewing a potential babysitter a week later,  My aunt replied, “oh!  Maybe we’ll get to meet her!”  I looked at her confused and she said, “oh yeah, we’ll still be here then!  I wanted to make you happy with us at least twice this trip; once when we came and then when we leave!”  I cracked up when she said that.

Every moment of every day they were in our home and making new memories with us was wonderful.

MySurreaLife at Gladstones

We went to the beach 3 full days, one of which little lady learned to jump in the waves with her Auntie Schmoopie.  We built sand castles by day and celebrated my cousin’s 20th birthday at the Redondo Pier.  We ate at Gladstones in Malibu one evening and then went to ride the ferris wheel at the Santa Monica Pier the same night.

MySurreaLife on the Santa Monica Pier

We went to see Josh Groban perform a 4th of July spectacular at the Hollywood Bowl on July 3rd.  It was a very serendipitious night for me.  I am fairly certain that it was our little lady’s first ever concert experience and the Hollywood Bowl is most certainly my most favorite music venue of all time.  I will never forget the way her eyes beamed when we walked into the Bowl arena and she saw the glowing green of the Bowl.  It was also wonderful that it was Josh that she saw sing at her first ever concert.  Josh and my sister went to music camp together many, many years ago and he has been a family friend ever since.

It was an especially odd sort of night for me when Josh spoke about how he thought the 4th of July was such a romantic holiday and how he hoped everyone who was there on a date was having a nice time.

MySurreaLife 3rd of July at the Bowl 2013

14 years ago, to the date, I was saying vows to someone who ended up being not good to me at all.  I divorced that person 4 long years after we promised to be together forever.  Sitting at the Bowl fourteen years later, with our little foster child on my lap, and to my right my significant other of five years, the person who supported me in my dreams of becoming a foster parent by going through the entire process alongside me, I felt complete euphoria.  I thought about how unrecognizably different my life is from then to now and how happy I am with my life, and how good it feels knowing how hard I’ve worked to make my life what it is today.

MySurreaLife Watching our Little Lady Watching the Show at the Bowl 2013


About 3/4 of the way through Josh’s set, little lady was getting restless.  She kept asking me where they were and when they were going to start.  The night before I had shown her video footage of fireworks at the Bowl and told her we were going there to see the fun and beautiful fireworks.  I was trying to prepare her for the bright lights, and mostly for the loudness of it all.  By this time in the show, my significant other had also gotten up to stretch his legs. Little lady got up to go see him, then came back to the seat to see me, then went back to him.

We were sitting in the first row of a section, so there were a few people behind us that I’m sure didn’t appreciate the ups and downs caused by the toddler being a toddler.  When I went down to tell little lady that she couldn’t keep coming up and down the stairs, a blonde woman, who I recognized, tapped me on the shoulder while we were down the stairs.  This familiar face asked me if our little lady wanted to get closer to the stage because if she did, she had an All Access pass and would be happy to give it to me if little lady wanted to go closer. I was shocked at the kindness of her offer.  I kindly replied that the little lady didn’t actually know what she wanted, and I thanked her for being so thoughtful.

We enjoyed the rest of Josh’s show and then the patriotic music that accomplanied the fireworks show after.  The little lady only got frightened twice by the extremely thunderous booms of two of the fireworks.  I made sure to explain to her that the noise wasn’t going to do anything to her.  I pointed out to all the other people in the venue and explained to her that none of those people were scared so she didn’t need to be either.  I held her tight and assured her we were okay.

It had been bugging me ever since the show, who the lady was who was so nice to us.  I knew she was an actress, a comedian.  Last night my girlfriend came by our home who used to work for Josh; yet another way the world is so small and so surreal to me.  Anywho, I was trying to explain to her what the comedian lady looked like who was so nice.  It was driving me crazy trying to figure out how I was going to figure out who that lady was. As I was drifting off to sleep last night, there she was in one of my favorite tv shows, guest starring on the The New Adventures of Old Christine: Rachel Harris.  Rachel Harris, thank-you for being so sweet.

Universe, thank-you for yet again being so awesomely surreal.


Halle Berry Walks Out Of A Nail Salon

Wow!  I just saw photos of Halle Berry leaving the same nail salon I go to get my nails beautified.  I would LOVE it if I ran into her there!  I spoke with her briefly at the Golden Globes.  I told her she was an inspiration to me for being diabetic, having had a healthy child and still being healthy after she delivered.  She was so nice to me and told me it was possible and encouraged me to keep trying.  She was probably barely pregnant with #2 then, little did we all know.